I read The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck a few years ago and found that I really enjoy Sarah Knight’s writing style. So, as someone who spends about 99% of her life in a decidedly uncalm state, I needed to read this book the very second I stumbled upon it at the library.
I like that, in all of her books, Sarah is never condescending. She never tried to minimize the feelings of anxiety and instead just tried to give tips on how to work through it in a rational way. How bad would it be if this thing happened? Okay, now how likely is it to actually happen? Is there anything I can reasonably do to stop it from happening? I actually used her advice to get through a situation I was (admittedly irrationally) anxious about and guess what? Nothing bad happened. Amazing.
Now, I don’t want to give all the secrets of the book away, but one of the concepts that I liked most was the Fuck Bucks. Basically, your Fuck Bucks are the amount of energy you have to devote to worrying about things. So everything is going wrong in your life. You can’t be anxious about everything at once (even though my brain says it can try) so you have to prioritize. What are you worried about that you don’t really need to be worried about right now? If you can’t control it and if it happening really wouldn’t be that bad, it’s probably not worth the Fuck Bucks to worry about it. But Sarah never gets patronizing about this. Throughout the book, I really felt that she understood what was going on in my head and just wanted to help me find a way to work through it.
I’d really like to read more of Sarah’s books, but I get the feeling that they don’t have as much of an impact if they’re read back to back. Maybe I’ll try out another one of them mid-2020.
Have you read Calm the F*ck Down? Can you recommend any good nonfiction about anxiety?
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