It starts before you can even remember: You learn the rules for being a girl. . . .
Marin has always been good at navigating these unspoken guidelines. A star student and editor of the school paper, she dreams of getting into Brown University. Marin’s future seems bright―and her young, charismatic English teacher, Mr. Beckett, is always quick to admire her writing and talk books with her.
But when “Bex” takes things too far and comes on to Marin, she’s shocked and horrified. Had she somehow led him on? Was it her fault?
When Marin works up the courage to tell the administration what happened, no one believes her. She’s forced to face Bex in class every day. Except now, he has an ax to grind.
But Marin isn’t about to back down. She uses the school newspaper to fight back and she starts a feminist book club at school. She finds allies in the most unexpected people, like “slutty” Gray Kendall, who she’d always dismissed as just another lacrosse bro. As things heat up at school and in her personal life, Marin must figure out how to take back the power and write her own rules.
Going into Rules for Being a Girl, I really had zero expectations. I’d never read anything by either Candace Bushnell or Katie Cotugno and, well, the synopsis of this one really sounded like it could go either way. It turned out being really well done and I was very pleasantly surprised.
In all honesty, there was a lot going on in this book. Somehow, though, I think it worked.
Marin, a high school student, is an excellent student, she’s the editor of her school newspaper, and she dreams of attending Brown University. Her English teacher builds a friendship with her and then makes a move, which she rejects and reports. In my head, I thought, wow, there are more than a few books and tv shows that could take a lesson from that. As the story develops, Marin deals with friends and authority figures who don’t want to believe that a well-liked teacher would act inappropriately, she meets with her (pretty cool) feminist book club, and she learns and grows so much.
There is a smidgen of romance here, which could have gone completely wrong in a book like this, but it was handled so well that it turned out okay. Marin’s love interest, Gray, turned out to be very sweet and really seemed to understand how a healthy relationship should function.
Overall, I really enjoyed this one. The only reason I gave it four stars rather than five was that nothing that happened was particularly surprising. That doesn’t mean it was bad, though, just not mind-blowing. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone looking for a good feminist YA book.

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Don’t Go Stealing My Heart by Kelly Siskind. I must say the blurb blindsided me into thinking it was a rom-com heist story but it was so much more. A vulnerable hero and both the protagonists find togetherness through their mutual weirdness. 😆
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That sounds really good!
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It’s equally fun and heartbreaking. 😅
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I recently read Rules For Being A Girl and enjoyed reading your book review. It seemed to encompass the message of the book without giving away any spoilers! I found the first article that Marin wrote – Rule For Being A Girl – quite empowering as a young woman and actually took a step back and viewed my own life from a different perspective. I also appreciated the presence of her strong grandmother! Can’t wait to read more of your book reviews!!
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Thank you! And yes, I forgot to mention her grandmother in my review, but she was great! I loved Marin’s article too. 🙂
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I haven’t read this, but it’s going on my future TBR. I’ve been fascinated by Candace Bushnell for years. Great review!
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Thank you! It was a great book. I hope you like it!
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This one is on my tbr! Glad to hear it’s good!
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I hope you like it as much as I did!
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